I had a mini-breakdown this weekend to the point where I contemplated killing myself just to make it stop. I’m better now, but I just wanted to say SOMEWHERE that I got through it. Thank you GOD and science for drugs. I’m still feeling a bit raw but at this point I know that my fear is irrational so it makes the anxiety a bit easier to deal with.
Repeat after me, folks: romantic plotlines don’t ruin female characters.
A female character isn’t weak because she has normal human emotions. She isn’t anti-feminist because she has vulnerabilities. There’s a difference between a female character existing entirely to be in love with the male character and a female character who happens to have a romantic subplot as part of her story.
It isn’t feminist to insist that female characters have to be “badass” unfeeling robots, detached from absolutely anything considered “feminine,” including, apparently, emotions. Sure, we don’t want female characters to be damsels in distress, but swinging in the other direction, to cardboard-cutout-badass-making-quips, isn’t much better. Good female characters appear human. And sorry, romance-haters, but love is a part of that.